Autumn in Oxford! September 22 - 24, 2023. Our theme is "Simplicity - the Ultimate Sophistication"

Our lineup of speakers for Oxford 23 is ready to take a good look at SIMPLICITY through different lenses, and they will inspire and provoke our thinking. On Friday, Madeleine will invite us to practice Simplicity in thinking – more challenging than we might think;-), With Leslie, we will look at simple emotions' role in group behaviours - A lens close to the heart of many TCL'ers! We examine the links between Simplicity Photography and Change with Mick on day two. In the afternoon, Leandro will share his insights and provocative thoughts on the lure and pitfalls of Simplicity in Transformation. On Sunday, Kalpana gives us a glimpse of an efficient use of Simplicity – an invitation to leave on a high!
Location
We are back at SBS Friday, Saturday, and Sunday morning! Details will follow, but expect to share a glass of wine or bubbly on the terrace Saturday afternoon. Stay tuned for more details as the date draws nearer!
Registration
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How to Register
Early-bird special for registered tCL members: 300 GBP on or before August 21, 2023. Afterwards, the price goes up to 365 GBP, so get in early! And guests are welcome, too. The price non-CCC alumni is 400 GBP.
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Simplicity
In today’s world, simplicity is often seen as a desirable outcome in various areas of life, including design, technology, and communication. As such, the concept of simplicity can be a catalyst for transformation. By prioritising simplicity, businesses and individuals can streamline processes, reduce clutter, and improve efficiency. Simple solutions can also be more accessible and user-friendly, which can, in turn, promote wider adoption and better outcomes. Ultimately, embracing simplicity as a core value can lead to transformative changes in both personal and professional contexts. Simplicity is becoming increasingly important in the face of VUCA environments, particularly in organisational transformation and the future of work. In VUCA environments, organisations must be agile and adaptable to change, which can be difficult when complex processes and systems are convoluted. Simplifying processes, systems, and communication can help organisations more efficiently and effectively navigate VUCA environments.
Come with us as we explore the essential features that give rise to all the elegance and beauty (and complexity!) we see in the world.


Spring in Paris! April 14-16, 2023. Our theme is "Inclusion - Expanding the spectrum to create wins for everyone"
Join us in Paris!
Last September at Oxford we focused on the environment and climate action. For our April conference in Paris we turn to organizational climate and “inclusion.” To paraphrase Verna Meyers, if diversity is being invited to the party, then inclusion is being asked to dance. So, for diversity to flourish, it needs a little push–a little umph. That “umph” or spark is inclusion. Join us as we explore new ways to elevate performance, drive engagement, and solve complex social problems more creatively and more inclusively.
And as always, the conference is also a time to reconnect with old friends, make new ones, and join in as we explore topics that matter. Come explore with us. We are inviting you to dance.
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Schedule
The schedule is still firming up, but we are currently speaking with half a dozen inclusion practitioners in Paris, London, Amsterdam, Oslo, and elsewhere. We’re also speaking with organizations in the greater Paris region known for best practices in the domain, for them to share their learning. And finally, we’re crafting a challenge to actually work through inclusion issues during the conference. Of course, it’s Paris … so an after-hours apéro at a local art gallery, featuring an inclusive art exhibit, is also on the agenda.
Location
We are back at the HEC Alumni Association in central Paris! Details will follow, but expect to share a glass of wine or bubbly on the terrace Saturday afternoon. Sunday's location is TBD. Stay tuned!
Registration
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How to Register
Early-bird special for registered tCL members: 295 GBP on or before March 1st, 2023. Afterward, the price ascends like rising temperatures to 330 GBP, so get in early!
We do apologize for the rising prices this year. As always, we charge only enough to cover expenses, which are on the up and up across the globe, unfortunately.
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Inclusion
This year’s theme is inclusion–what it means, how to instill it, and why it’s beneficial to our teams, our companies, our communities, and even our planet. There’s a lot to explore. Come join us!
Speakers & Facilitators
Please refer to the Programme Book for the lineup. We are excited! Hope you are, too!
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2022 Fall in Oxford: Enough!
Join us next month in Oxford! The earth is heating up, and we’ve had enough! Let’s discuss ways that we can arrest the trajectory of climate change. And then let’s take those methods home and create positive change right in our own neighborhoods and communities.
As always, this is also a time to reconnect with old friends, make new ones, and join in as we explore “climate practice”–changing the climate for the better. Encouraging others to embrace climate change is only half the battle; it’s time to start acting. Hence, the theme of this fall’s conference: Enough! The climate is changing; we have to as well. And as with any complex system, small changes (in our own lives) can have an outsized impact. Come explore them with us!
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Schedule
The schedule is still firming up, but we look forward to hearing from HEC's own Anne-Fleur Goll, a senior climate consultant at Deloitte. We will also hear from two of our own who are working in the climate change space right now: Jacob Mayne and Emmanuelle Berenge. Sunday morning we will enjoy a book panel with our newest authors, followed by a brainstorming session: How should we celebrate 20 years of CCC/CL in 2023. Before departing, we will enjoy a new treat: tCL in action. Listen to the personal stories of some of our nearest and dearest tCLers as they discuss their personal journeys.
Location
We are back at Said Business School! Details will follow, but expect to share a glass of wine or bubbly on the terrace Saturday afternoon.
Registration
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How to Register
Early-bird special for registered tCL members: 225 GBP on or before August 31st. Afterward, the price ascends like rising temperatures to 300 GBP, so get in early!
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Enough!
This year’s theme is climate change–not what it is or why it’s happening, but what each and every one of us can do about it. We know this: all change is local, and small changes can have significant impacts. Let’s put those truisms of “change” to the test. What small acts can we initiate in our own communities that might spark a local movement in the right direction? There’s a lot to explore. Come join us!
Speakers & Facilitators
Our tCL members never fail to step up, whether presenting their own work, or connecting the community to practitioners around the world. Joining us for fall 2022 will be Anne-Fleur Goll from Deloitte, as well as our very own Jacob Mayne and Emmanuelle Berenge.
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2022 Spring in Paris: Regenerate
Join us next month in Paris! We know this is short notice, but if you can make it, we will pull out all the stops and make this spring a regenerative experience.
Reconnect with old friends, make new ones, and join in as we explore regenerative practices. So much of organisational life is about extracting and exploiting “what works” that we often forget or overlook the need to explore ways to regenerate personal resources like energy, intuition, and wisdom. This collective blind spot can and does have serious implications for a sustainable future.
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Schedule
The schedule is still firming up, but we look forward to hearing from Leen Gorissen - author, biologist, and transformation expert, as well as, Sara Biglieri, a former professional dancer turned scientist, who will guide us through some regenerative practices and show us how we might connect these experiences to our organisations.
Location
Expect to do some exploring on Friday in central Paris, so bring your walking shoes. We will start the day with a re-connecting Breakfast, the meeting place will be announced shortly.
On Saturday, we will meet at the HEC Paris Alumni center at 9:00 am. The address is: Association HEC, 9 Avenue Franklin Delano Roosevelt
75008 Paris France
On Sunday morning, we will meet over a brunch in central Paris. Details will follow
Registration
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Price reduction for registered members of tCL 2022. Be sure to log in to your tCL account and check the registration tab below to secure your spot. See you in Paris next month!
How to Register
We have slashed prices for Spring 2022. tCL registered members will pay only 160 GBP.
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Regenerate
It’s been said that we humans lack a nuanced understanding of the relationships between ourselves and the wider world. For example, take the relationship between global warming, zoonotic disease transmission, and deforestation. As the earth heats up, the population of mid-size mammals is decreasing while the population of smaller mammals–often the food source of the midsize mammals–is burgeoning. And it is those smaller mammals that tend to carry more diseases. As we humans encroach on nature, then, looking for ever more space and natural resources, we are increasingly coming into contact with these disease-causing mammals, like bats, thus increasing the chances of zoonotic disease transmission and yet another pandemic. In the last 2 decades we’ve not only experienced the hottest temperatures in recorded history and some of the most powerful storms and forest fires, but we have experienced near-pandemics with SARS, MERS, H1N1, and now a full-blown pandemic with COVID-19. What was formerly a once-in-a-century event is now commonplace. Indeed, some scientists predict that we have a 47-57% chance of experiencing another COVID-like pandemic in the next 25 years.
The path we are on is not sustainable. Moreover, as complex systems go, this pattern is playing out at the organisational and personal levels as well. What’s to be done about it? That is what we hope to tackle in this spring’s conference: simple regenerative practices that we can then tie to our communities and organisations. Join us!
Speakers & Facilitators
Our tCL members never fail to step up, whether presenting their own work or connecting the community to practitioners around the world!
For Spring 2022, joining us will be Leen Gorissen and Sara Biglieri.
Stay tuned!
Come ready to connect, challenge and co-create together.
2021 e-Xperience: Braving Crises
April 12-17, 2021 — tCL’s eXperience is back with our Spring edition on “BRAVING CRISIS”. Check out the full program and schedule with speakers below. Sign up now to join us!
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Schedule
9 interactive sessions, 9 speakers and countless connections - taking place from Monday to Saturday, 12-17 April, 2021.
Organized in conversational formats and micro workshops to accommodate as many time zones as possible for our global community.
Check out the speakers with their topics and final program below!
Location
This e-Xperience will take place via Zoom. Once registered, the Zoom log-in details will be shared via email.
Registration
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The e-Xperience is free to our registered members of tCL 2021. To ensure an interactive and enriching e-Xperience, places will be limited. So be sure to log in to your tCL account and check the registration tab below to secure your spot.
How to Register
This e-Xperience is free of charge for 2021 tCL registered members. Limited places, at a fee, are available for members of HEC Alumni and SBS Alumni communities.
If you are a CCC alumnus you can now activate your tCL membership for 2021 and register for this e-Xperience at the same time.
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Braving Crises
The word “crisis” came from the Greek verb “krinein”, meaning to separate, distinguish and judge in order to decide a course of action in a difficult context. Hippocratus was said to have used it during the turning point of a disease when a decision had to be taken, resulting in a change for the better (recovery) or for the worse (death).
Therein lies the dilemma and complexity of a crisis for we know there’s a lot more hidden behind that one decision. There’s no playbook to be had and no best practice to follow because by it’s very nature, a crisis is unexpected, mired in uncertainty and disruptive as well as destabilizing. The thought of undoing a condition or situation forever is enough to overwhelm and paralyze.
What happens when a multitude of decisions are needed, all at once, and their chain reaction has the propensity to create wicked problems of their own — ones that will change the question of life and death on more than one dimension?
The COVID-19 pandemic started out as a health crisis, but very quickly, it escalated into multi-faceted socio-economic crises of a monumental scale. How do we brave these times to thrive and not just survive? The future looks decidedly choppy, yet offer hope when we look hard enough for new possibilities.
Our spring e-Xperience opens up space for us to tackle this and dwell on the courageous lessons from the field and research, covering:
- Resilience and Leadership: how is this transposed from self to a systemic change-making scale? What does leadership in crisis look like?
- Decision-making: how do we deal with conflicting agendas and paradoxes amidst moving targets and unknowns? Where does ‘Ethics’ fit?
- Bouncing forth vs back: what do we need to pivot in ambiguity towards opportunity in a scenario of shifting futures and long-drawn crises ramifications? How will these define needed and transposable skills?
- The World Beyond Crises: Is there such a thing? What are we learning? What will work, education, institutions and society look like if we re-frame crises as windows of opportunity?
- Change agency: how do we help our stakeholders and clients re-invent themselves and others for a tomorrow that’s constantly shifting?
The scale and complexity of our times calls for retrospective foresight on a communal and societal level. It is a call for us to brave the crises collectively so self-organizing systemic change for good might get a chance for success.
Speakers, Facilitators & Moderators
The wealth of our community and network never fails to enrich our e-Xperience. We are fortunate to have academicians, practitioners, researchers and leaders from all walks of life who care about sharing and inter-connecting, fuelling further learning and progress about systemic and self-organizing change.
For our Spring e-Xperience, we are welcoming:
Week-Long Program
The Spring e-Xperience will be delivered 100% remotely. All sessions will be moderated conversations and interactive micro workshops. In view of our global community the e-Xperience will accommodate as many time zones as possible.
Unless otherwise indicated, sessions will be recorded and made available for registered tCL 2021 members.
Come ready to participate, challenge, co-create, learn and network for collective change.
Date | Time (CET) / duration' | Session Theme | Speaker(s) | Moderator / Host |
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12 April | 5:00 - 6:15pm / 75' | e-Xperience Kick-Off & Opening Panel: Braving a Permanent Crisis | Hugo Marynissen Rufaro Maunze Mike Staresinic | Mariann Gyorke |
13 April | 8:00 - 9:00am / 60' | Ethical Decision-Making in Crisis | Peter Collins | Alessandra Wulf |
13 April | 5:00 - 6:30pm / 90' | From Safety Science to Braving Crisis | Alexis Kummetat | Mariann Gyorke |
14 April | 1:30 - 2:45pm / 60' | Leadership Dilemmas in Turbulent Times (this session will not be recorded) | Tawfik Jelassi | Eileen Lee Lavergne |
14 April | 2:45 - 3:15pm / 30' | Counter-Space | NA | Robert Poynton |
15 April | 12:30 - 1:30pm / 60' | Tackling Crisis of the Labor Market, Today and Tomorrow | Soon Joo Gog Mona Mourshed | Jan Berlage |
16 April | 1:00 - 2:00pm / 60' | Dancing with Crises | Christine Cayol | Eileen Lee Lavergne |
16 April | 6:30 - 7:30pm / 60' | Counter-Space: Grounding and Priming | NA | Robert Poynton |
17 April | 5:00 - 6:30pm / 90' | e-Xperience Culmination: Braving Crises - What Now? | All + community | Roberto Saco |
Please check the programme book with information on speaker biographies, session synopses, and suggested readings.
I Change — The New Book of Changes, Part I
“Do not turn and run, for there is nowhere worthwhile for you to go. Do not attempt to push ahead into the danger… emulate the example of the water: Pause and build up your strength until the obstacle no longer represents a blockage.”
― Thomas F. Cleary, I Ching (Book of Changes)
There is no beginning to this, no start points (other than a starting awareness, perhaps). And no labels either, like teleological or evolutionary. When one decides to create change or toy with it, or when one becomes aware that change might be necessary, those old categories and constraints don’t fall away so much as bleed together like colors in the laundry. And if there is no beginning, then must we not agree that change is constant? When we endeavor to create it, then, we do so against a backdrop of existing change. Change is the way of things, an infinite regression — turtles, all the way down.
Consider that when we say, “One Mississippi …” (or “one Piccadilly” or “one one-thousand”) — in that split second anywhere from 100,000 to 1,000,000 cells in our body perish and are replaced by new ones. Exact replicas, or are they? You’re not the same person you were a second ago, much less when you started reading this article 60 seconds ago. (My, how you’ve changed.) We experience ourselves as unchanged, continuous. But all it takes is a look in the mirror, or in the photo album, to remind us that continuity is an illusion.
But the change we feel in our bones and in our guts, be it a change in the weather or a change in our status, is not so constant. It’s rather episodic, sometimes cyclical, sometimes rhyming with fits and starts.
Putting perception aside for a moment, change is more like a trajectory or a thread being stretched. Change is not the fabric of space-time so much as a tendril running through it, coming around on itself like a spiral orbit. But not an orbit that returns us day after day, year after year, to the same eternal point in the heavens. The earth revolves around the sun but does not return in a year’s time to the same place it once occupied. The sun is on the move, too. The whole solar system is — we forget that. Everything is spiraling, moving. So is change; it’s on the move. And it will happen regardless, if only because the future so desperately wants to emerge. Change isn’t coming so much as it is becoming. And there are so many tendrils: you, me, everything.
This seems clear: In returning home after many years on the road, it’s not only we who’ve changed but so has our home. It, too, was on the move. As such, change is spatial, temporal, variable. It can be both a point in time and a period of time. Change is quantum.
That’s the weirdness of change, like playing with electrons. One second it is in your hand, and the next it is smearing through it. If change obeys a set of laws, we haven’t yet uncovered all of them. But we don’t necessarily have to define every nuance of change to play with it. When it comes to creating change, we have some choices, albeit a modest palette of actions. We can step aside and let change (and the future) come to pass, unbidden and unchecked. In this case, we are not so much resigned to passivity, though that is possible and perhaps favored by some. But we are not such a species; rather, we are like a boxer, slipping change’s jab or rolling with its punches, and sometimes, getting rolled by them. On dark days, change is the overhand right we never saw coming.
We can also lean in gently and push against the arrow of change and, if the surrounding skids have been greased (because people have been encouraged to participate in the change), nudge the change trajectory toward a different, more inviting destination. Like an aikido master, we can effortlessly redirect the trajectory’s aim by tapping on it here and there ever so slightly. Little inputs can have massive effects. Go easy.
More often than not, though, change is not so easy — even when the skids have been greased — and we must put our shoulders and backs against the trajectory’s ingrained path, grit our teeth, and heave. But beware, because trajectories often have minds of their own and seek a return to the old paths and the old ways. All systems seek to return to their lowest energy state, humans included. To change the path and sustain the course thereafter takes energy — in the form of care — applied over time, sometimes a long time.
Lastly, and similarly, we can put our shoulders and backs against the very same path, only this time dig our heels in and absolutely refuse to let that trajectory’s path change even one iota. Inertia is on our side here: While onerous at times, it’s still easier to keep a thing from moving than it is to get it moving. It’s easier to stay the course than it is to change it.
These options are, of course, not mutually exclusive, not really. What barriers that exist between the choices for change, positive or otherwise, are often those that we conjure and create. We like to categorize, we humans. Yet, we can be all these things at once, pushing here, pulling there, bobbing and weaving as required. And when our change efforts are fruitful and the new path is a good one, or when we get lucky and get it right, we tend to say, “I did that (or we did that). I changed that.” But when we get it wrong, we tend to say, “There’s nothing I could have done. It wasn’t my fault. The situation conspired against me. Who would have thought …”
Biases both amplify and diminish our desire for change, as well as our efficacy — our ability to bring it about. The forces for and against change are often one and the same, the gas pedal is the brake pedal, and only the context in which they are applied is different. One day we are an agent of change; the very next we are an agent of the status quo. You’ll get used to the paradoxes after a while.
And when we are heaving and hauling against that trajectory’s path and trying to redirect it, which choice of modestly bright futures and workable solutions is the right choice, which path is the correct one? “There are many roads to Rome,” we say. Better to answer that with more questions: What is our purpose? Or we might ask ourselves, “If we could be any shape, what shape would we like to be? A cube? A sphere? And what shape is our environment? Do we match up?” So much of the microscopic world, like the proteins that comprise us — so much of that world relies on shape for its function. Shape is function and vice versa. Should we not emulate that world and aim for a better fit with our environment? Becoming fit — getting into shape — has new meaning in the world of change.
We might also ask, what matters to us right now? And if we can name it — that which matters most — can we then concentrate on it? The change required might not be external (to our teams, our companies, our communities, our families, and ourselves) but internal. Like a samurai sword, the paragon of annealing, are our atoms — our people and teams and subcultures — are they all aligned and focused, even if only for a time? When it comes to focusing on what matters most, the distractions are legion. Breathe them away.
Or, we might consider what variations in our story, personal, cultural, tribal, or otherwise, do we wish to select and retain, and which do we wish to cut away? Who are we; who do we want to be? And are our narratives pretty things we hang on the wall — core values and what not? Maybe our values make for a nice catchy acronym: Sincerity, Humility, Integrity, Temperance. Sounds nice, but it’s all SHIT. Or perhaps our narratives aren’t merely a script to be read but one to be acted out: All things are known by their behaviors. How are we known — by what behaviors?
Examine your world calmly. Build up your strength. And answers will emerge. But they won’t be elegant. Mostly we muddle through change, but we can still muddle well.
Put that on your t-shirt: Muddle excellently.
Here, read the I Ching, I say. Now you have some understanding of change, if only because you see that the universe is a set, perhaps an infinite set, of patterns — patterns that we can divine from time to time. But never perfectly, never fully. Now you understand change, if only because you have more questions than before reading the ancient text. If only because you’re more confused and uncertain. If only because you understand that change is difficult. It’s hard, and our resistance to it is hardwired.
Smile at it, this resistance. Give it a curt nod and wink at it. But don’t do as some do in the face of change and uncertainty and curl into a rigid ball, accepting no new information unless it conforms to the shape of the old ways, the comfortable ways, the mediocre ways. Instead, breathe, expand, and look straight into your resistance. Is there something you fear in there, some loss perhaps, like status? That’s ok; we all dread it. But courage emerges in spite of fear, even because of it.
On the way to acting courageously, you can perhaps shed the linear — the mindset and the causal models. Shake off the westerner in you — in all of us. I shake my head when I read the change books. For some, change progresses from step to step, neat and tidy-like, in six or eight or ten distinct leaps. We were once atoms, then cells, then tissues, then organs, then systems. That makes me chuckle — we were indeed, but we were, and are, all of those at once. And even if we progressed, it was not in a linear fashion but in a complex one. With each new turn, we found ourselves more interconnected and more interdependent, more diverse and more entangled. “More is different,” we say.
When creating change, concentrate on relationships, not steps. When changing our habits, for instance, we need not return to the atom and start over, progressing linearly. Instead, imagine what it might be like to co-evolve, to start everywhere at once, to expand outward and inward. Generate solutions and test them, explore, get creative. And get help. Linking arms with tough-minded, gritty accomplices is cool. It’s also necessary.
Start your expansion here, perhaps: Practice what you wish to become. Start small; try to embrace the courage to say no (it’s harder than you might think). And for those around you on the practice field, those who are willing to fumble and get back up, reward them mightily, and do so with nothing more than attention — a hug, a slap on the back, or an arm-pumping handshake. They are as free, these rewards, as they are invaluable. Do that, and you’ll see more of those sought-after behaviors (and more people willing to practice, perhaps). But be careful; ignore the wrong behaviors — in yourself, your boss, your peers, your kids — and you’ll see more of them as well. So, don’t ignore the poor behaviors, but do but spend your time resourcing the good ones (and the people who practice them, naturally). To the “practicers” go the spoils. Play with resources like autonomy and choice; lend trust as you would a hand. Let mastery emerge. And tell some stories.
Maybe you can tell the one about that person on your team who took a risk and spoke up. Perhaps they called attention to something uncomfortable but something that needed to be said. Or maybe you tell that story about the person who always seems to listen so intently, like what others are saying is just the most important thing they’ve ever heard — because it is. Maybe you tell the story about how so-and-so responds, never jumps to conclusions, never reacts, never interprets another’s behavior without first trying to understand the other’s intent. Maybe you tell a cool story about that person on the team who shares information just as readily as they share their experiences — the good and the bad, the successes and the failures, the home runs and the strikeouts. Ooh, maybe you tell a story about someone who doesn’t just talk SHIT but actually acts it out every single day (Sincerity, Humility, Integrity, Temperance — in case you forgot). Maybe you tell a story about someone on the team who consistently asks for feedback, who waives away the praise and says, “Give me something I could have done better, something real to try out.” Simple rules might be hip these days, but feedback is still where the magic happens.
These are really just stories about people who create relationships that hold the world together. No biggie. They are also stories about people who can change that world. Ask them to lend you their backs and shoulders.
I’m assuming you can tell these stories, right?